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Sexual Compatibility
While it can be very painful to feel poorly matched sexually with your lover, many people are quick to claim poor sexual compatibility. Compatibility is not the same as mismatched libidos, which is about appetite for sex rather than what turns you on. Sexual compatibility has a lot more to do with people’s willingness to Read More
Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations are those that we all put off—sometimes for a long time. The conversations we’d frankly rather not have because they’ll make the other person uncomfortable. Truth is, they’ll make us uncomfortable. These are the conversations that we hope we will never need to have. Read More
Couples’ Communication
In the twenty years I’ve been coaching couples, when clients call in for their initial consultation, they usually mention poor communication. They complain that their partner doesn’t know how to communicate, won’t communicate, won’t respond to their communication, has poor communication skills, has a long history of poor communication, comes from a family of poor communicators… As I listen, I’m translating. To me it’s all code for the fact that people always communicate; they just may not like the communication they’re getting. And they’re hurt, frustrated, feel stuck, hopeless, angry, scared. Read More
Positive Sandwich
When giving a man feedback, give him the ‘positive sandwich’: you start with a positive (“I love how you…”), give him the constructive criticism (“And it would make me even happier if…”), and end with a positive (“You’re such a wonderful…(lover, cook, father, planner)”).
Men have a single-focus brain
When you want to talk to a man, pick an opportune time, a time that will set you both up for success. Men’s brains are single‐focused ‐ in other words, they’re best‐suited to only focusing on one thing at a time. Women tend to have multi‐tasking brains. Again, neither is better; it’s just different, and serves different purposes. Read More