40-50% of first marriages end in Divorce
60% of Second marriages end in Divorce
75% of third marriages end in Divorce
I can help you avoid being one of these statistics. I’ve worked with many couples reconsidering whether or not to divorce.
Often couples come in and one person wants a divorce and the other doesn’t. That is distressing for people but definitely can lead to very effective therapy. Discernment Counseling is a term which refers to a particular approach which is more focused on:
*getting clarity about how you both feel, and why (without blaming)
*gaining a deeper understanding of the ineffective dynamics causing your stuckness
*acquiring confidence in the best direction for your marriage.
Relationship or Divorce coaching with me is a last resort before taking legal steps. I can help you get really clear about:
- Why you’re having the couples difficulties you’re having
- Whether you’re staying/leaving the marriage for the right reasons
- Whether you’re likely to recreate the same problems in your next relationship
The #1 reason for divorce is poor communication.
The #2 reason for divorce is unresolved conflicts and arguments.
The #3 reason for divorce is infidelity.
If you decide to stay together, I can give you tools to strengthen your marriage. Having those conversations that seem the most risky and difficult to have, actually has the most potential to increase intimacy (and I don’t mean just sex) and eroticism in your marriage.
If you decide to part ways, I can help you resolve conflicts and power struggles so that you can choose to separate amicably. We can also strategize financial and child logistics, and I can refer to supportive expert professionals, whom I have personally met, interviewed, and selected, who can take you through the legal process.
The average cost of divorce is $15,000-$20,000: Divorce is expensive. Marriage and divorce consulting with me is much cheaper, with lasting benefits.
If you are divorced, or in the process, and seeking Relationship or Divorce Coaching alone, I can help you grieve, understand, and recover…and set you up for success. Think you might want to work with me?
I offer sex therapy services to people near San Francisco where I’m located, in the US and internationally via phone & Skype.