“Nobody is ever broken.” That’s how Dr. Claudia Six begins her talk about women’s sexual performance anxiety. She addresses specifically how women (and those that love being with them) can overcome such anxiety, which appears VERY different from the kind that affects men. Arousal slows down for women, rather than speeds up; and many women think there is something broken about them. Dr. Six calls her approach to helping women overcome their anxiety the achievement of “erotic integrity.” When a woman owns her sexual being and desires, when she can give voice to her needs without worrying about her partner’s reactions, she is on the road to “erotic integrity.” As Dr. Six says, making this step is about more than the bedroom — it is about women saying “We are enough. We are not broken.”
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If he rolls his eyes when she speaks, or if she is stiff and passive during sex…they’re communicating! What do you think they’re saying? What are you communicating?
From Lorna Poole’s Magnet for Love YouTube channel:
Learn the 3 steps to sexual authenticity: knowing who you are as a sexual being, embracing it and living that authentically. Being in Erotic Integrity can certainly help a woman to find a man who will be a sexual fit for her and we don’t mean penis size. Truly knowing and embracing her eroticism will empower a woman to select a lover who is a happy match for her, long term if that is what she seeks.
This was a real, live interview, with Danette Kubanda, emmy award winning national TV producer, publicity consultant and media coach. She used to work with Oprah. Now she trains me!
I see a lot of women who come to sex therapy thinking they’re broken because sex isn’t working for them. You’re not broken! When a woman is anxious about sex, I call that Garden Variety Performance Anxiety. Yes, women get performance anxiety too. It’s not just for guys. They worry about getting turned on fast enough, not getting turned on, not coming, not doing it right…
Super smart people have a particular subset of relationship and sexual challenges. Often they lack empathy, miss social cues, are quirky in ways that can create distance and miscommunication in a couple. They have a silver lining too: they’re honest, loyal, committed.