With the new year many of us turn to personal growth to improve our lives and relationships. Here are some thoughts from Esther Perel: “People ask me daily: how do I find the right therapist? Whether it’s individual, couples, or family therapy, the kind of therapist I always recommend is one who is challenging and Read More
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Men are like microwaves, Women are like crockpots
In terms of sexual arousal, typically men are like microwaves and women more like crockpots. Bad design but there you have it. Which appliance are you? It’s important to note that low desire is not a label, a permanent diagnosis, or a flaw – it’s a position in the system. Every couple is a system, Read More
Upcoming Menopause support group
Taking the “Pause” out of Menopause: Creating a Rich Sex Life in Middle Age and Beyond Women’s Peri-Menopause and Menopause Support Group SIX consecutive Tuesdays from 6:30pm to 8pm PST starting October 18, 2022 On Zoom Join us Benefits of Participation: Small, confidential, closed group limited to ten women. Initial one-on-one, Read More
When Sex Gets Boring in a Relationship
Boring Sex There’s no such thing as sexual boredom. When sex gets boring in a relationship, it’s usually because uncomfortable feelings are coming up that people don’t want to feel. The brain does this nifty trick of bypassing uncomfortable feelings and going straight to “boredom.” We tell ourselves that we are experiencing sexual boredom so Read More
Calling all the single men
Psychology Today just published an article about how most of the singles app users these days are single men rather than women, and women’s standards have gone up, thus requiring all those single men to up their game if they want to find romance. Sounds like good news to me. More emotionally equipped men and Read More
The Truth About Having an Orgasm After Menopause
I was recently interviewed for Giddy, a health focused website, about a topic that is dear to my heart: the sexual wellbeing of menopausal women. Here are a few of my choice quotes from the piece: “After going through menopause, women may also experience difficulty orgasming. It’s one of those secret side effects of menopause Read More