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Skype sessions during Coronavirus

While we are all supposed to isolate from each other, some of you will be in close proximity to each other, more so than usual. Dynamics in your relationship that are challenging may be more so. The added stress of fear and restriction may find you wishing you could have a therapy session. You can!

Many of my clients are doing Skype sessions this week. Email me days and times you need and you can get the support you’re wanting. You don’t have to feel isolated.    claudia@nulldrsix.net

After all, what better time to work on your relationship than during this period of retreat?

And if you need ideas for how to occupy your time, there’s this:

Erotic Integrity on The Quick & The Dirty podcast

She’s a clinical sexologist and a relationship coach, and she’s the author of the book “Erotic Integrity.” On this episode, Hilary and Sandra welcome Dr Claudia Six.  She explains how being true to yourself sexually is so important in every healthy relationship. And if you are looking for the right partner,  you might want to consider making a list!

If you want to learn more about erotic integrity and find out if you have it, take the quiz HERE.

Listen to podcast

Erogenous zones, & Live Desire Broadcast

If you’ve ever wanted to be a fly on the wall in a sex therapist’s office, now’s your chance. PLUS you can ask questions, ANONYMOUSLY…and have them answered, by me, LIVE.

Our theme, because it’s such a rich topic: DESIRE. Sexual desire. What do you want but have never told anyone? What do you want but have trouble admitting to yourself? Do you want more of something, less of something, or do you desire something different entirely? In 30 years of practice, I’ve heard a lot. You won’t shock me. Ask me anything!

Or just tune in and listen: Sat 8/24 @ 11 AM Pacific  Dr SIX Live on Spotlight Streaming

In the meantime, just to keep you occupied, for a rundown on erogenous zones, go to https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/what-erogenous-zones-chart

 

Crying After Sex Is More Common Than You Think

Dr SIX in Oprah Magazine

“Crying after an intense orgasmic release is a great reason to cry,” says Six. “It may just be an additional release of energy, or joy and gratitude at having had such an ecstatic feeling. You can feel out of control, but it’s a release of tension.” She compares it to having a laughing fit following a stressful situation.

According to Claudia Six, clinical sexologist, relationship coach and author of Erotic Integrity, a cry that bubbles up “can be due to engaging in sex that didn’t feel good to her, physically or emotionally—or maybe she’s not with the partner she’d like to be with.”

Six is inclined to say there’s no such thing as “too often,” especially when it’s post-climax. But if the tears come with strong feelings of unhappiness, Six says it’s time to discuss it with a therapist.

 

What’s your parenting story?

Many of my clients struggle with parenting issues, and how these impact their relationship and their sex lives. I too am a parent and have grappled with some of these concerns.

WHAT’S YOUR PARENTING STORY?

Parenting can be a highly charged topic for most people, even for those of us who’ve graduated from the Process. After doing the Process, we are very aware of the patterns we adopted from our parents and caregivers. While we have disconnected from many of them, we can still find ourselves playing out some of them.

Parenting Hands

I was curious what story was at the root of our tendency as parents to second-guess and berate ourselves as parents. I decided to ask some of the Hoffman staff the following questions and received some insightful answers.

If you are a parent: What’s a story you tell yourself about parenting that makes parenting hard and makes you feel terrible about yourself?

If you are not a parent: What story do you think parents tell themselves about parenting that makes it so hard and makes them feel so badly about themselves?

RESPONSES FROM PARENTS:

“I was not emotionally available to my child. I was focused on my own unhappiness and on how I could try to change her father.”

“If I’m not a calm, peaceful mama all the time then I criticize myself and feel like I will never get there.”

“My partner knows more than I do; I must defer to her in day-to-day parenting and in our parenting philosophies. The story is that I am not good at it and I must defer.”

“There’s a strong social expectation that parents have to follow the advice of so-called experts and when we can’t, or try and are unsuccessful because it doesn’t work, we tend to beat up themselves and feel like we’ve failed. We feel bad and second guess ourselves. It makes parenting that much harder. I remember reading parenting magazines in the doctor’s waiting room and thinking, ‘I can never do this.’”

MORE THOUGHTS FROM PARENTS:

“There’s something missing in me because I didn’t have a healthy mother/daughter relationship growing up.”

“I’m living in perpetual fear of being my own parents; showing up for my own kids like mom and dad did for me.”

“I often hear myself say, ‘Oh my god. I sound like my mother. And I promised myself I would never repeat her parenting behaviors.’ Or ‘Damn. This is why I shouldn’t have had kids. I knew I would mess them up. I knew I didn’t have what it takes. I am too damaged from my own childhood.’”

RESPONSES FROM NON-PARENTS:

“They [parents] have to deny how they feel – they put on a front to protect their child and the child can see and feel it anyway. Parents get to feel. It doesn’t help anyone in the family to not show their true feelings.”

“There are expectations on them that they should be perfect. When you love someone like your child so much, hurting them hugely magnifies the pain – the weight is like a shame download of self-criticism.”

“Being a parent requires one to perfectly protect and provide children with a loving and kind approach.”

By Julie Daley at the Hoffman Process  https://www.hoffmaninstitute.org/

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