Ok, there’s all this talk recently about how optimal it is to have sex one time per week. It correlates with happiness. Bottom line, that’s great if it works for both you and your partner. There’s no quota you have to meet, people! A mercy fuck every week is not Erotic Integrity. One of you Read More
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Talking about sex with parents
Parents talking to their kids about sex is a mark of EROTIC INTEGRITY: authentic communication about sexuality. Raising kids with Erotic Integrity entails making choices about modeling behavior as a sexual being, what to call the ‘down there’ parts, and when to get candid about birth control and safe sex. Every parent has to make Read More
Post Relationship Grief
Women have more to lose by dating the wrong person, and so are better at accepting a relationship is over and selecting a new partner, says a new study on post relationship grief Maybe that’s because women grieve & men replace! There’s nothing like stewing in your own juices and licking your own wounds for Read More
Confusing vulvas and vaginas
Vulvas, people! Vulvas!!! Not “vaginas”! Unless you have a speculum and a flashlight, a la Annie Sprinkle, you will never see a vagina! The outside lips are the vulva – the inside, past the gate, the warm dark wet part that you like to slide into, is the vagina. This is a pet peeve of Read More
Sexual Compatibility
While it can be very painful to feel poorly matched sexually with your lover, many people are quick to claim poor sexual compatibility. Compatibility is not the same as mismatched libidos, which is about appetite for sex rather than what turns you on. Sexual compatibility has a lot more to do with people’s willingness to Read More
Sexual Desire versus Arousal: It’s not the same thing!
Sexual desire is not the same thing as sexual arousal