When we are naked and aroused is when we are most vulnerable. So if you have nervous thoughts, it means you’re feeling vulnerable. Being intimate with someone can be kinda scary, especially if you’re dating a new boo or don’t have much sexual experience. Your partner is probably nervous too, so try to chill your nerves and focus on the parts of intimacy that you both enjoy!
If you’ve been with a new lover several times and you’re not getting into your groove and feeling more comfortable and confident, it might be a good idea to reflect on what’s really going on. Take note of how you feel before, during and after sex with this person and remember that you never have to do anything you don’t want to.
The most important thing to remember is that nervous thoughts are normal, and if all goes well, they should not persist.