Many times in my practice, clients have asked me how you know whether to stay in a relationship or go. Here is some of what I share with people at those difficult times.
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Set your man up to win: be specific
Setting your man up to win might also sound like: “Sweetie, it would really make me happy if we had a date night at that French restaurant this Friday; I could wear my new dress and you’d look so handsome in that suit we got you last year. Would you be willing to make a reservation for Read More
Relationship Maintenance – Couples Tune-up
Part of a healthy lifestyle is relationship maintenance. When something lights up on the dashboard of your car, or it makes a funny noise, you don’t wait for AAA to be towing it away to talk to your mechanic. When your teeth hurt, you don’t wait until you need a root canal to see your dentist. It’s the same with relationships. Don’t wait until you’re in pain, or worse yet, in crisis.
Don’t make him wrong: my marriage vows
I got married in 2010. We wrote our vows separately and surprised each other with them. I had been jotting things down over a period of months, and one thing kept coming up for me: my beloved has zero tolerance for being made wrong. It just doesn’t work for us. The first thing that I committed to Read More
Don’t make him wrong!
Here’s a biggie: making a man wrong is a lose. Cumulatively, it whittles away at his sense of manhood and empowerment. It’ll make him angry and cause him to withdraw. You may have noticed. Don’t make him wrong. Period. Give it up.
Thank him: up one side and down the other
Here’s another important piece: when a man does something that pleases you…thank him! Several times. Thank him in the moment, and be specific about what pleased you (it made you feel cared for, it helped you somehow…). And thank him again later, in an unrelated moment: “Remember when you complimented me on my outfit? That made me feel Read More