Spring Clean your Relationship My husband suggested that, as a couples sex therapist, I put out a Relationship Spring Cleaning newsletter. I googled the term – turns out it’s not a novel concept. But here’s my take on it: *You get caught up in the hectic pace of life. It doesn’t take much investment of Read More
Performance Anxiety: It’s Not Just for Men
There’s an assumption that performance anxiety is about guys getting it up, keeping it up, cumming at the right time. When in fact women are just as anxious as men; it just looks different.
SIX Questions to Create Intimacy
Too often long term couples stop talking to each other, as in “How are you really?”, and new couples tread lightly for fear of being vulnerable. Next time you’re on a date with someone new, or not so new, try these SIX questions to ask each other: 1. What does friendship mean to you? 2. Read More
Dr SIX on DESIRE vs AROUSAL
Today’s blog is going to be a departure from my usual SIX tips for this, SIX reasons why that. DESIRE VERSUS AROUSAL is a topic that seems to be up a lot these days for my clients. So I thought I’d write about that. The popular media are forever confusing the two. I define desire as the Read More
Setting Boundaries: Honoring Your Truth in Romantic Relationship
Being able to set boundaries allows us to remain close to our lover even when we have differences. We can allow ourselves to be influenced by the other without losing ourselves.
SIX BASIC TRUTHS ABOUT SEX & RELATIONSHIPS
Every once in a while I tell my clients what I call ‘Basic Truths’ – stuff I don’t make up but that is inherently true. Here are a few of them: If you want to be seen, you have to show yourself. Makes sense. Similarly, if you want to be heard …you have to speak Read More