Clinical sexologist Dr. Claudia Six says first and foremost it’s important for rape survivors to know there is nothing shameful about having rape fantasies. “Rape is an act of violence. It’s not a sexual act. This is something that happened to you—you’re not responsible for what that person did.” “If you’re turned on by being Read More
New Year’s Resolutions You Should Make as a Couple
Resolve to schedule a monthly check-in. It may not be the sexiest resolution the world, but experts agree that setting aside time to stop what you’re doing and connect with your partner is an important ingredient in a long-lasting relationship. “Consider what your partner might be withholding or afraid to say out of fear of upsetting you—or what you Read More
Why You Shouldn’t Let the Holidays Pressure You Into a Proposal
“The holiday season, as well as Valentine’s Day, are a popular time for proposals because people get swept up in the anticipation of the festivities, and because guys have to come up with a gift,” says Claudia Six, PhD, clinical sexologist and relationship coach. What better gift than an engagement ring, right? Not so fast. Just Read More
Your Ultimate Guide to Meeting Your Partner’s Extended Family Over the Holidays
Get the 411. Ask your partner to give you the rundown on the family at least a few days before you show up at the front door. Start with ironing down everyone’s name. “Chances are, the family will only have one name to remember: yours,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D., clinical sexologist and relationship coach. You, on the Read More
5 Sex Positions That Give You (or Your Partner) Easy Access to Your Clitoris
If you have a difficult time reaching orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone, it’s nothing you or your partner should feel bad about. In fact, it’s totally normal. “People are still buying into this myth that orgasms through penetration are better in some way,” says San Francisco–area sexologist and relationship coach Claudia Six, PhD, author of Erotic Integrity: Read More
What Are Signs You’re You’re Not Being Yourself During Sex?
You’re Having Sex When You’re Not Turned On If you have sex simply because your partner wants to and you’re not opposed, you miss out on getting in touch with your desire. “And you get burned out,” clinical sexologist and relationship coach Claudia Six, PhD, author of Erotic Integrity: How To Be True To Yourself Read More