With all the talk of Trump’s deplorable attitude towards women, I think we need a more learned perspective: a sexologist’s view. The good thing about all this is that we’re talking about a topic that frequently gets brushed under the carpet: demeaning objectification of women. When women are objectified, we all lose. It’s harder to be sexually authentic when your only perceived value is certain body parts, whether you buy into it or not. And when you’re not authentic in your erotic expression, that makes for less pleasure for all parties involved.
Women get anxious about their partner losing interest, taking it personally, or finding them inadequate. Guys think they have the monopoly on performance anxiety: they don’t. What men don’t know is that in a consensual relationship, women are trying to get turned on in bed as fast as men do, and when they don’t, they think they’re broken. They’re not! (for more on that see the Garden Variety Performance Anxiety chapter in the Erotic Integrity book https://drsix.net/erotic-integrity-book/)
What Trump doesn’t know about women is that we struggle with sexual performance anxiety as much as men do. It just looks different. And knowing that trumps being objectified.
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