New moms who are experiencing perinatal difficulties that impact their physical comfort and body image can often lose interest in sex. “There is always a very good reason why couples stop having sex after having a baby. I tell my clients that no one is broken or needs to be fixed. It helps to understand Read More
sex differences
Men have a single-focus brain
When you want to talk to a man, pick an opportune time, a time that will set you both up for success. Men’s brains are single‐focused ‐ in other words, they’re best‐suited to only focusing on one thing at a time. Women tend to have multi‐tasking brains. Again, neither is better; it’s just different, and serves different purposes. Read More
Men need wins
Men generally thrive on wins; they need a lot of them. It’s not at all that they’re frail creatures who need to be pumped up; it’s how they’re put together. And there’s great value in it. When a man is happy at work, feels effective, get successes, that’s a win. Each new client, each sale, each Read More
Men have binary brains
When you set a man up to win, it doesn’t mean that you lose. On the contrary. When you can increase a man’s sense of his manhood (and I’m not just talking about sex here) (but that too), his self‐esteem blossoms, he feels empowered, and better able to get the ‘win’. Men have binary brains: Read More
Mars & Venus
John Gray has just published his 17th book. He and I agree about men wanting to make women happy, especially when women appreciate and thank them. We also agree that women benefit from giving men opportunities to be successful. ‘Set him up to win’, is how I describe it. He is not available for counseling Read More
How to Talk to Men
Men have binary brains: every situation is either a win or a lose. It’s not wrong. It’s just one of the ways that men are not women. Men generally thrive on wins; they need a lot of them. It’s not at all that they’re frail creatures who need to be pumped up; it’s how they’re put together. And there’s great value in it. When a man is happy at work, feels effective, get successes, that’s a win. Each new client, each sale, each happy customer, each time his supervisor praises him, he’s a winner. It’s similar in relationships. Setting a man up to win is telling him what would make you happy, and inviting him to please you. Not demanding: inviting.