Parents talking to their kids about sex is a mark of EROTIC INTEGRITY: authentic communication about sexuality. Raising kids with Erotic Integrity entails making choices about modeling behavior as a sexual being, what to call the ‘down there’ parts, and when to get candid about birth control and safe sex. Every parent has to make Read More
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“A verbal, out loud, enthusiastic YES”
“A verbal, out loud, enthusiastic YES”: If you want to get it on, own it and consent. That’s Erotic Integrity. Laci Green talks consensual sex and relationships | The Daily Californian Consent is Erotic Integrity
Sexual Compatibility
While it can be very painful to feel poorly matched sexually with your lover, many people are quick to claim poor sexual compatibility. Compatibility is not the same as mismatched libidos, which is about appetite for sex rather than what turns you on. Sexual compatibility has a lot more to do with people’s willingness to Read More
Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations are those that we all put off—sometimes for a long time. The conversations we’d frankly rather not have because they’ll make the other person uncomfortable. Truth is, they’ll make us uncomfortable. These are the conversations that we hope we will never need to have.
Couples’ Communication
In the twenty years I’ve been coaching couples, when clients call in for their initial consultation, they usually mention poor communication. They complain that their partner doesn’t know how to communicate, won’t communicate, won’t respond to their communication, has poor communication skills, has a long history of poor communication, comes from a family of poor communicators… As I listen, I’m translating. To me it’s all code for the fact that people always communicate; they just may not like the communication they’re getting. And they’re hurt, frustrated, feel stuck, hopeless, angry, scared.
Positive Sandwich
When giving a man feedback, give him the ‘positive sandwich’: you start with a positive (“I love how you…”), give him the constructive criticism (“And it would make me even happier if…”), and end with a positive (“You’re such a wonderful…(lover, cook, father, planner)”).