Food and babies can affect body image negatively. Women turn to food when they are hungry for something they can’t identify: to feel loved, heard, seen, wanted, worthy, safe…
Shame & Self-Loathing are often part of the relationship with food. It affects every other part of life. Even if you aren't/haven’t been an anorexic or bulimic, if you’re eating for emotional reasons, gaining or losing significant weight, feeling out of control, you need to be aware of how food fits into your life. It’s not about the actual food you put in your mouth: it’s about the feelings.
For a wonderfully sane perspective on post baby bodies there is this: https://theshapeofamother.com/
Either way, when you don’t feel good about your body, regardless of what it looks like, it’s hard to show up for your partner, and let yourself be seen, emotionally or physically. Because that is intimacy.
And when you’re stuffing feelings, you’re suppressing sexual feelings too. It stands to reason.
Let’s find out how you get in your own way, and why.
Free yourself! Enjoy & like yourself! We can do it together. Contact me
Read "Women, Food, Body Image, & Libido," published in Common Ground in October 2012.
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