I got married in 2010. We wrote our vows separately and surprised each other with them. I had been jotting things down over a period of months, and one thing kept coming up for me: my beloved has zero tolerance for being made wrong. It just doesn’t work for us. The first thing that I committed to in my vows was to try to not make him wrong, and that if I wanted to make him wrong, I committed to figuring out what was going on with me that caused me to do so. Because when you make somebody wrong it’s information about you, not about them. I know, you probably don’t like hearing that either. But I’m right on this. These unconventional vows really resonated with my beloved, as well as with the audience, the men especially. They’re still talking about it. I think I struck a chord. As far as our marriage goes, so far so good.
