I’m not a football fan but I couldn’t miss hearing about Tim Tebow’s relationship demise due to his insistence on abstinence until marriage. If nothing else, it’s unusual. He’s young, gorgeous, and fit. But that is totally beside the point. If he feels strongly about his values, is clear about what is true for him, Read More
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“We have much to be thankful for”
I received this from a former client a few days ago. It is yet another reminder for me that no matter how bad things can seem sometimes, things really always do work out for the best. “It is funny how quickly things unraveled for both of us once we each let go of our bad Read More
Once a week
Ok, there’s all this talk recently about how optimal it is to have sex one time per week. It correlates with happiness. Bottom line, that’s great if it works for both you and your partner. There’s no quota you have to meet, people! A mercy fuck every week is not Erotic Integrity. One of you Read More
Talking about sex with parents
Parents talking to their kids about sex is a mark of EROTIC INTEGRITY: authentic communication about sexuality. Raising kids with Erotic Integrity entails making choices about modeling behavior as a sexual being, what to call the ‘down there’ parts, and when to get candid about birth control and safe sex. Every parent has to make Read More
Post Relationship Grief
Women have more to lose by dating the wrong person, and so are better at accepting a relationship is over and selecting a new partner, says a new study on post relationship grief Maybe that’s because women grieve & men replace! There’s nothing like stewing in your own juices and licking your own wounds for Read More
Confusing vulvas and vaginas
Vulvas, people! Vulvas!!! Not “vaginas”! Unless you have a speculum and a flashlight, a la Annie Sprinkle, you will never see a vagina! The outside lips are the vulva – the inside, past the gate, the warm dark wet part that you like to slide into, is the vagina. This is a pet peeve of Read More