One of my pet peeves is that in this country (I’m French, remember) people use the word “intimacy” as a euphemism for sex. It’s not the same thing!
Intimacy is about owing your vulnerable underbelly, it’s about revealing yourself for the sake of wanting to be known, it’s not a tit for tat you-show-me-yours-I’ll-show-you-mine kinda thing. It’s vulnerable. Not fragile~vulnerable.
And then there’s sex or fucking. If you’re lucky, you have the two together. But intimacy does not equate sex.
If you’ve read my book Erotic Integrity, you know all about this.
Intimacy does not feel sexy. It feels rather like walking a tightrope over an ocean of hungry sharks. But it is the path to deeper eroticism and better sex.
You gotta have the stomach for it. It’s not for the faint of heart. I don’t make this stuff up. It’s just how it is.
I’m Dr Claudia SIX, Clinical Sexologist & relationship coach, saving the world one bedroom at a time.
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