When giving a man feedback, give him the ‘positive sandwich’: you start with a positive (“I love how you…”), give him the constructive criticism (“And it would make me even happier if…”), and end with a positive (“You’re such a wonderful…(lover, cook, father, planner)”).
Men have a single-focus brain
When you want to talk to a man, pick an opportune time, a time that will set you both up for success. Men’s brains are single‐focused ‐ in other words, they’re best‐suited to only focusing on one thing at a time. Women tend to have multi‐tasking brains. Again, neither is better; it’s just different, and serves different purposes. Read More
Thank him: it’s a win
When you thank him, that’s a win for him, and he will want to do what pleases you again, so that you are pleased again. Never underestimate the impact of praising and thanking a man, with a smile and direct eye contact, whether it’s your mate, a busboy in a restaurant, the guy helping you at the Read More
Thank him: up one side and down the other
Here’s another important piece: when a man does something that pleases you…thank him! Several times. Thank him in the moment, and be specific about what pleased you (it made you feel cared for, it helped you somehow…). And thank him again later, in an unrelated moment: “Remember when you complimented me on my outfit? That made me feel Read More
Set your man up to win: he wants to please you
Setting a man up to win is telling him what would make you happy, and inviting him to please you. Not demanding: inviting. When a woman demands, a man only has two choices: he can submit and comply (not a win), or he can rebel (not a win either). Inviting would be something like: “Honey, it would Read More
Men need wins
Men generally thrive on wins; they need a lot of them. It’s not at all that they’re frail creatures who need to be pumped up; it’s how they’re put together. And there’s great value in it. When a man is happy at work, feels effective, get successes, that’s a win. Each new client, each sale, each Read More