EROTIC INTEGRITY™: How to be True to Yourself Sexually by Dr. Claudia Six Common Ground February, 2012 Excerpt ‘Erotic Integrity’: two words that we don’t usually put together. Yet the concept underlies everyone’s sexual and romantic behavior. Erotic is defined as “dealing with sexual love” & integrity means “adhering to a code of values,” according Read More
Couples’ Communication
In the twenty years I’ve been coaching couples, when clients call in for their initial consultation, they usually mention poor communication. They complain that their partner doesn’t know how to communicate, won’t communicate, won’t respond to their communication, has poor communication skills, has a long history of poor communication, comes from a family of poor communicators… As I listen, I’m translating. To me it’s all code for the fact that people always communicate; they just may not like the communication they’re getting. And they’re hurt, frustrated, feel stuck, hopeless, angry, scared.
How to Handle Yourself after Your Partner Has an Affair
People who have been cheated on usually want to distract themselves by speculating and perseverating about why the offender was unfaithful: fear of commitment, an overriding need for validation, thrill seeking, anxiety, sex addiction, yearning for freedom, and so on. While some of these reasons may be accurate, focusing on the other person rather than on yourself is not empowering. So what can you do after your partner has had an affair?
Relationship Maintenance – Couples Tune-up
Part of a healthy lifestyle is relationship maintenance. When something lights up on the dashboard of your car, or it makes a funny noise, you don’t wait for AAA to be towing it away to talk to your mechanic. When your teeth hurt, you don’t wait until you need a root canal to see your dentist. It’s the same with relationships. Don’t wait until you’re in pain, or worse yet, in crisis.
Don’t make him wrong: my marriage vows
I got married in 2010. We wrote our vows separately and surprised each other with them. I had been jotting things down over a period of months, and one thing kept coming up for me: my beloved has zero tolerance for being made wrong. It just doesn’t work for us. The first thing that I committed to Read More
Don’t make him wrong!
Here’s a biggie: making a man wrong is a lose. Cumulatively, it whittles away at his sense of manhood and empowerment. It’ll make him angry and cause him to withdraw. You may have noticed. Don’t make him wrong. Period. Give it up.