What would a HAPPY SEX LIFE give you?
I recently posed this question to my 6000+ Facebook friends and got a surprising mix of answers.
The somewhat spiritual responses: a “complete “knowing” of another human being, a ”trust so deep that I want to surrender”, “the feeling that my soul is home”, an expression of life energy, authentic erotic expression.
The healing aspects: with deep heart connection “it heals the last vestiges of wounded self-esteem”, “increased self-esteem”, “fun, joy, connection, acceptance of my aging body, and attachment”, “total happiness”, feeling received, happy, relaxed and content, feeling lovable, desired, wanted, good enough. Connection, a soft place to land.
And health benefits: “lower blood pressure, better sleep”, “blissful sleep”, “a deeper sense of embodiment and good chemicals for brain health”.
A beautiful word was used by several of my native French speaking friends: “complicity”. I love that word. In old French and Latin it means to ‘fold together’. But in English it means being involved in illegal activity with another. In French it is defined as a deep and spontaneous ‘entente’ or alliance, a sense of well being, togetherness and fondness.
Maybe that’s why French is such a sexy language: we have words for this kind of thing.
The absence of this was described by one man as “it kills me, little by little, day by day”. Another said it was “devastating”, “the loss of a large part of who I am” and of “one of the greatest gifts”. Unfortunately, I hear this often.
With my 30+ years of experience and knowledge, I have reassured clients that their goals are achievable (when I believe they are) and supported them in moving from no longer being lovers, to a HAPPY SEX LIFE. Nobody is ever broken, and nobody needs to be fixed. Stuckness always makes perfect sense.
A HAPPY SEX LIFE harnesses your five senses. You touch your lover’s skin and are touched. You see the pleasure on their face. You hear their breath catch with the first penetration, their moans and their cry or roar of orgasm. You smell their skin. You taste your lover.
Don’t you want that?…..
