Abstinence as Erotic Integrity
I’m not a football fan but I couldn’t miss hearing about Tim Tebow’s relationship demise due to his insistence on abstinence until marriage. If nothing else, it’s unusual. He’s young, gorgeous, and fit. But that is totally beside the point. If he feels strongly about his values, is clear about what is true for him, […]
Once a week
Ok, there’s all this talk recently about how optimal it is to have sex one time per week. It correlates with happiness. Bottom line, that’s great if it works for both you and your partner. There’s no quota you have to meet, people! A mercy fuck every week is not Erotic Integrity. One of you […]
Confusing vulvas and vaginas
Vulvas, people! Vulvas!!! Not “vaginas”! Unless you have a speculum and a flashlight, a la Annie Sprinkle, you will never see a vagina! The outside lips are the vulva – the inside, past the gate, the warm dark wet part that you like to slide into, is the vagina. This is a pet peeve of […]
Sexual Compatibility
While it can be very painful to feel poorly matched sexually with your lover, many people are quick to claim poor sexual compatibility. Compatibility is not the same as mismatched libidos, which is about appetite for sex rather than what turns you on. Sexual compatibility has a lot more to do with people’s willingness to […]
Sexual Desire versus Arousal: It’s not the same thing!
Sexual desire is not the same thing as sexual arousal
Dr SIX on DESIRE vs AROUSAL
Today’s blog is going to be a departure from my usual SIX tips for this, SIX reasons why that. DESIRE VERSUS AROUSAL is a topic that seems to be up a lot these days for my clients. So I thought I’d write about that. The popular media are forever confusing the two. I define desire as the […]
