Men are like microwaves, Women are like crockpots

In terms of sexual arousal, typically men are like microwaves and women more like crockpots. Bad design but there you have it. Which appliance are you? It’s important to note that low desire is not a label, a permanent diagnosis, or a flaw – it’s a position in the system. Every couple is a system, […]

Things Every Couple Argues About—and How to Avoid Them

arguing couple sitting on opposite ends of sofa

-Infidelity: In my office I tell people that “there’s no bad guy in cheating”. It’s a hard sell, I know. But by that I mean that both members of the couple contribute to the relationship dynamic that led to one of them having an affair. The one who has been cheated on is not to […]

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When a woman owns her sexual being and desires, when she can give voice to her needs without worrying about her partner’s reactions, she is on the road to Erotic Integrity. Making this step is about more than the bedroom — it is about women saying “We are enough. We are not broken.”

TEDx Wilmington Video: Performance Anxiety–It’s Not Just for Men

When a woman owns her sexual being and desires, when she can give voice to her needs without worrying about her partner’s reactions, she is on the road to “erotic integrity.” As Dr. Six says, making this step is about more than the bedroom — it is about women saying “We are enough. We are not broken.”

Desire Is Not the Same as Arousal

Desire is not the same as arousal. They are two separate things. Too often people think they have no desire and feel broken. You’re not broken! Desire is the willingness to get started and it can come from 3 different places. Watch this video for details.