“The macrocosm reflects the microcosm” : A clear space will promote a clear state of mind. A dirty, cluttered bedroom will only invite chaos and uncertainty into the bedroom. Claudia Six, Clinical Sexologist & Relationship Coach, author of the book Erotic Integrity: How To Be True To Yourself Sexually, says “The macrocosm reflects the microcosm.” In other words, a clear, uncluttered mind helps to set the mood, especially for women.
“If a woman is noticing all that needs to be tidied up, she will not be present for sex. And it’s impossible to get aroused if you’re in your head and not in your body,” Six told Medical Daily.
Make the bed the focal point: The way the bed’s placed in the room can help promote healthy, sexual energy. If the bed is featured prominently in a well-decorated room, that can be inviting, says Six. Or, if the bed is cozy in a small room, that can be appealing too.
However, for exhibitionists, Six suggests, “have the bed in front of the window with open drapes, to increase the chances of some passerby seeing you, adding to your thrill,” she said.
Avoid politics: The bedroom is a place of creativity and freedom of expression. However, something that is controversial or political can shift the energy from sexual to aggressive — not in a good way. Six says, “Conflict creates distance, not romance.” In the case of politics, it’s cerebral, and sex is primarily physical — this makes us be more in our head than our body.