FOSTERING A HEALTHY ATTITUDE TOWARDS DESIRE: my Australian podcast

I was on a podcast out of Australia recently. Grab a beverage and spend 50 informal minutes with me. I haven’t done an interview like this before. I talk about: my lens on the world as a child how I developed a positive outlook on sexuality personal questions about my spare time communication during doggie […]

Erotic Integrity – Low Desire

It’s important to note that low desire is not a label, a permanent diagnosis, or a flaw – it’s a position in the system. Every couple is a system, and in each system there is generally a low desire partner and a high desire partner. Those positions are generally pretty stable. It is rare that both partners have the same appetite for sex all the time. When one person wants sex more than the other, it’s called Desire Discrepancy in sexological psychobabble. Low desire is a relational issue that causes suffering when it is at odds with the partner’s higher desire and interpersonal stress is incurred.

What would a HAPPY SEX LIFE give you?

  What would a HAPPY SEX LIFE give you? I recently posed this question to my 6000+ Facebook friends and got a surprising mix of answers. The somewhat spiritual responses: a “complete “knowing” of another human being, a ”trust so deep that I want to surrender”, “the feeling that my soul is home”, an expression […]

It’s never about sex

I’ve been saying for years that it’s never about sex. So recently I changed my tagline. Let me explain. People think that sex is easy, happens naturally, and that when there’s a glitch, it’s about the sex. The problem isn’t getting the penis into the vagina (assuming a hetero model for the sake of this […]