It’s important to note that low desire is not a label, a permanent diagnosis, or a flaw – it’s a position in the system. Every couple is a system, and in each system there is generally a low desire partner and a high desire partner. Those positions are generally pretty stable. It is rare that both partners have the same appetite for sex all the time. When one person wants sex more than the other, it’s called Desire Discrepancy in sexological psychobabble. Low desire is a relational issue that causes suffering when it is at odds with the partner’s higher desire and interpersonal stress is incurred.
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SIX Sex Myths, & a Discount Offer
SIX because that’s my name and I had to pick a number. Sex myths abound and as we start off the year I thought I’d tackle a few of them which seem to persist in my practice. *If you don’t want to read about myths but do want to save money on my 8 session Read More
International Kissing Day
Pucker up! Today is Kissing day. Any day is good for kissing really, As a French woman, I highly advocate kissing. Here are some thoughts I shared with a Newsweek reporter on the subject. What are the main kissing techniques? How many are there and what are they? I’m tempted to say that there are Read More
Compromise in a relationship
“Compromise can be very loving when done with self respect and in a way that supports the relationship.” Compromise can be seen, by some people, as a positive thing—an opportunity to meet in the middle and come to a conclusion that satisfies both parties. However, it can often be viewed in a negative context, equated Read More
There’s no such thing as Sexual Boredom
I don’t think there’s any such thing as sexual boredom. When people complain that they’re bored, it’s usually because uncomfortable feelings are coming up. Read more about it on MindBodyGreen.
Relationship Maintenance – Couples Tune-up
Part of a healthy lifestyle is relationship maintenance. When something lights up on the dashboard of your car, or it makes a funny noise, you don’t wait for AAA to be towing it away to talk to your mechanic. When your teeth hurt, you don’t wait until you need a root canal to see your dentist. It’s the same with relationships. Don’t wait until you’re in pain, or worse yet, in crisis.