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I was in Psychology Today recently. A client just told me!
“Porn is never really the issue,” says clinical sexologist Claudia Six of San Rafael, California. It’s usually erotic differences between the partners. Most often, couples are clueless about their sexual selves. “They think there is one certain way to be sexual. With sexuality there is more variation than people give themselves permission for.” great sexual silence in many heterosexual relationships.”
When you’re a sex therapist, one of the most frequent questions you get from clients is “Am I normal?” (…)
Sexologist and relationship coach Claudia Six, Ph.D., had one client who thought something was wrong with him because he didn’t like receiving oral sex. But he loved kissing, so she just urged him to do more of that. (…)
All these things are normal, but ultimately, it doesn’t actually matter if they’re normal or not, says Six: “As a sexologist, I’m more concerned with whether what they’re doing works for them and their lover, not whether they’re doing the same as everyone else.”
Read full http://www.glamour.com/story/am-i-normal-sex-therapist article.
“It all comes down to the fact that we want to be desired,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D., sexologist, relationship coach and author of Erotic Integrity: How to Be True to Yourself Sexually. And that’s totally natural and integral to a healthy, satisfying sex life, says Six. (…)
“Be crystal clear about how rough you want your hair pulled or how hard and frequently you want to be spanked,” says Six. He wants to provide pleasure for you—so your job is to tell him how, says Six. Talk about the parts of rough sex that appeal to you, like being overpowered or having someone do forbidden things to you that you can’t prevent. And don’t forget to discuss whether you should play rough back or remain subservient.
I’m in Women’s Health again!
When your partner is trying to change you: “If they’re ridiculing you in public or giving you constant, unsolicited advice around the clock about what you should or shouldn’t be doing, they’re not showing they care in a healthy, conducive way,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D., clinical sexologist and relationship coach and author.
Start off outside the bedroom. If you want to make things more spontaneous, try initiating foreplay in the kitchen, office, garage, or anywhere else where you don’t typically do it, says sex and relationship coach Claudia Six, Ph.D. You can either lead your partner to the bedroom afterward or just have sex right then and there. “It’s the unexpected that keeps things interesting,” she says.
Or Experiment with temperature. Heat and cold can both add a lot to the sensations you’re already feeling. One way to play with temperature is to suck on ice cubes and lick each other’s erogenous zones. Or you can try dripping warm wax on each other’s bodies or using warming lube. Either tactic—or the two combined—should create “a delicious shiver,” says Six.
Break out the ice cubes, baby! It’s getting hot!
http://www.glamour.com/story/new-foreplay-ideas
Thanks Women’s Health for the quote: While there are many secrets to getting along with the love of your life during the ugly, tense, and smelly times, the number one thing you should embrace is the ability to just let stuff go. “You have to choose between being right or being happy,” says Claudia Six, Ph.D. “Happy couples let go of being right.” That good old “forgive and forget” mechanism is a majorly necessary component to any successful long-term relationship because it allows us to prioritize the future, instead of getting stuck in the past.
