Being able to set boundaries allows us to remain close to our lover even when we have differences. We can allow ourselves to be influenced by the other without losing ourselves.
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Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations are those that we all put off—sometimes for a long time. The conversations we’d frankly rather not have because they’ll make the other person uncomfortable. Truth is, they’ll make us uncomfortable. These are the conversations that we hope we will never need to have.
Women, Food, Body Image, & Libido
How often do you think about food? Shame and self-loathing are often part of the relationship with food. Do you think about what you want to eat that you shouldn’t, because it might make you fat? Do you bargain with yourself, adding up calories in your head, then repenting with the promise of a salad? Moreover, how often do you think about your body? And, truth be told, how often do you think about your body positively? The vast majority of American women have a poor body image. And the positive view of the rest is hard earned and sometimes only sporadic.
EROTIC INTEGRITY™: How to be True to Yourself Sexually
EROTIC INTEGRITY™: How to be True to Yourself Sexually by Dr. Claudia Six Common Ground February, 2012 Excerpt ‘Erotic Integrity’: two words that we don’t usually put together. Yet the concept underlies everyone’s sexual and romantic behavior. Erotic is defined as “dealing with sexual love” & integrity means “adhering to a code of values,” according Read More
Couples’ Communication
In the twenty years I’ve been coaching couples, when clients call in for their initial consultation, they usually mention poor communication. They complain that their partner doesn’t know how to communicate, won’t communicate, won’t respond to their communication, has poor communication skills, has a long history of poor communication, comes from a family of poor communicators… As I listen, I’m translating. To me it’s all code for the fact that people always communicate; they just may not like the communication they’re getting. And they’re hurt, frustrated, feel stuck, hopeless, angry, scared.
How to Handle Yourself after Your Partner Has an Affair
People who have been cheated on usually want to distract themselves by speculating and perseverating about why the offender was unfaithful: fear of commitment, an overriding need for validation, thrill seeking, anxiety, sex addiction, yearning for freedom, and so on. While some of these reasons may be accurate, focusing on the other person rather than on yourself is not empowering. So what can you do after your partner has had an affair?