Have More Sex Please

Sex is good. Sex is healthy. Sex is an essential part of our social fabric. And you — specifically — should probably be having more of it. Americans, in the midst of a loneliness epidemic, are not having enough sex. Across almost every demographic group, American adults old and young, single and coupled, rich and poor are […]

Zero to Six, where are you on the Kinsey Scale?

Part of Erotic Integrity is exploring where you are on the Kinsey scale. This is what my friend Tom did recently. I don’t usually do guest posts, but here is what he had to say about it: Zero to Six, where are you on the Kinsey Scale? I had never given my own sexual identity […]

Top 5 Questions People Ask Their Sex Therapist

Be a fly on the wall and hear what every sex therapist (at least this one) gets asked A LOT. I was recently interviewed by Josephine McNary at Cal Psychiatry. Top 5 questions people ask their sex therapist

How to Find the Right Therapist For You

With the new year many of us turn to personal growth to improve our lives and relationships. Here are some thoughts from Esther Perel: “People ask me daily: how do I find the right therapist? Whether it’s individual, couples, or family therapy, the kind of therapist I always recommend is one who is challenging and […]

Men are like microwaves, Women are like crockpots

In terms of sexual arousal, typically men are like microwaves and women more like crockpots. Bad design but there you have it. Which appliance are you? It’s important to note that low desire is not a label, a permanent diagnosis, or a flaw – it’s a position in the system. Every couple is a system, […]

Upcoming Menopause support group

Taking the “Pause” out of Menopause: Creating a Rich Sex Life in Middle Age and Beyond Women’s Peri-Menopause and Menopause Support Group SIX consecutive Tuesdays from 6:30pm to 8pm PST starting October 18, 2022 On Zoom            Join us Benefits of Participation: Small, confidential, closed group limited to ten women. Initial one-on-one, […]