When you want to talk to a man, pick an opportune time, a time that will set you both up for success. Men’s brains are single‐focused ‐ in other words, they’re best‐suited to only focusing on one thing at a time. Women tend to have multi‐tasking brains. Again, neither is better; it’s just different, and serves different purposes. So if you want to approach him to discuss something, don’t do it when he’s focused on something else. When he’s watching a football game on TV, fixing the car, doing e‐mail, helping little Johnny assemble his new toy…he’s not available. And he won’t be able to give you his undivided attention, which is what you want, right? He may grunt in response, and you assume that he has heard and understood you. Later you wonder why he doesn’t remember. He genuinely doesn’t. Pick a time when he can focus on you. Catch him in between tasks. You might even want to ask if it’s a good time to discuss what color to paint the den, plan his mother’s birthday party, RSVP to a dinner invitation…
