I read an article this morning about the cost of the search for love. Whether it’s fancy outfits to attract attention, fancy dinners to impress, the incessant invitations from dating apps to upgrade, or the desperate search in high end dating services. It adds up. Having recently been on 5 dating apps at once recently (unsuccessfully), I can relate.
It got me thinking about how many of us are spending all this money without getting to the cause of how we get in our own way. Just like numbing out in various ways can be a distraction but doesn’t get at the root of trauma. Dating apps can be a huge but ineffectual distraction.
I believe there’s more value and effectiveness in:
– understanding why our past choices made sense but were not a long-term fit
– finding our voice in asking for what we want, sexually and lifestyle-wise
– clearing past traumas that hold us back.
That’s what I’ve done for myself. It’s hard work. And that’s what I help my clients do.
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