Get some exercise
The fastest way to calm the mind is to move your body. “Exercise will help calm you down and support you in moving through strong emotions,” Claudia Six, Ph.D., sexologist, relationship coach and author of Erotic Integrity. And physical exercise can help release cortisol, the stress-producing hormone, and release endorphins, your body’s feel-good hormones.
Own your mistakes
“This may require the assistance of a couples therapist or clinical sexologist, but it’s important that you look at the part you played, conscious or not,” Six said. “This will help set you up for success in your next relationship.” Did you make you make your partner feel wrong a lot? Did you withhold sex? It’s much more empowering to know and own up to your part rather than just focusing on the fact this happened to you.
“While it’s quite possible you did nothing to encourage your partner to cheat on you, you want to figure this out from an unbiased opinion, not from a friend who’s only saying things to make you feel better,” she added.
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Jeff Album says
The degree of relief knowing one needs not worry about this (those of us who experience this relief) should not be under appreciated. We, who feel safe in our relationships, notoriously do not thank, appreciate or cebrate our partners for not subjecting us to this horrible stress.
Walter Shine says
Claudia,great response..We need to teach our couples how to communicate with one another & put in the proviso that cheating is not an optional.it would be helpful for couples to have 3 to 6 months of Pre marital counseling.Thats what I will be teaching in my Young Men’s Conference.