If he rolls his eyes when she speaks, or if she is stiff and passive during sex…they’re communicating! What do you think they’re saying? What are you communicating?
This is not sexy, but today is World Autism Awareness Day. Asperger is on the Autism spectrum, and I have a lot of what I call “aspy flavored” clients, who struggle with a particular set of relationship and sexual issues. I have a particular fondness for aspy flavored people, partly because they fall through the cracks and are misunderstood. If you or someone you know may identify with that read here.
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This NY Post articles tells women to demand better sex, but while it’s an empowering stance, it can totally backfire, and not get you what you want.
When you demand something of a man, he has two choices: to comply which is submissive, or rebel and pull away. Neither is going to get you a good lay, casual or marital. You have to instead invite: let him know he’s going to get a “yes” so that he wants to give you what you are asking for in bed (or on the coffee table – wherever you are “doing it”). “Ooh baby, that feels so good. I’d love it if you used your fingers too” (specify where).
Parents talking to their kids about sex is a mark of EROTIC INTEGRITY: authentic communication about sexuality. Raising kids with Erotic Integrity entails making choices about modeling behavior as a sexual being, what to call the ‘down there’ parts, and when to get candid about birth control and safe sex. Every parent has to make that decision.
Talking about sex with parents, especially mothers, had an effect on safer sex behavior among adolescents, especially girls, according to an article published online by JAMA Pediatrics
“A verbal, out loud, enthusiastic YES”: If you want to get it on, own it and consent. That’s Erotic Integrity.
Laci Green talks consensual sex and relationships | The Daily Californian
When giving a man feedback, give him the ‘positive sandwich’: you start with a positive (“I love how you…”), give him the constructive criticism (“And it would make me even happier if…”), and end with a positive (“You’re such a wonderful…(lover, cook, father, planner)”).