Each year, the Pacific Sun newspaper puts together their Best of Marin issue based on the results of a readers’ poll, in which loyal readers vote for their favorite businesses across Marin County. This year, I’m thrilled to have been elected: Talkin’ ’Bout Sex What should one expect from a Best Sex Therapist? The category winner, Claudia Six,
You have Hollywood expectations Those sex scenes you see in movies—the spontaneous, rip-your-shirt-off, do-it-on-the-kitchen-table kind of sex—are not always realistic. “Movies (and porn) are entertainment, not how-to educational videos,” says Dr. Six. Instead of comparing your romp sessions with Fifty Shades of Grey, focus on the unexpected with your partner—being vulnerable and spontaneous is the key
This 75-Year Harvard Study Found the 1 Secret to Leading a Fulfilling Life: “The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.” The biggest predictor of your happiness and fulfillment overall in life is, basically, love. Specifically, the study demonstrates that having someone to
Get some exercise The fastest way to calm the mind is to move your body. “Exercise will help calm you down and support you in moving through strong emotions,” Claudia Six, Ph.D., sexologist, relationship coach and author of Erotic Integrity. And physical exercise can help release cortisol, the stress-producing hormone, and release endorphins, your body’s feel-good hormones.
Watch yourself masturbate Masturbating in front of a mirror will help you feel more confident during sex, since you’ll see what your partner sees—which is pretty freaking hot, says Claudia Six, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist, relationship coach, and author. So get down with yourself where you can see your whole body. “Watch how your body
Apart from the perpetual argument about taking out the garbage, what else should you just stop fighting about, right now!? Jenn Sinrich of Women’s Health interviewed Dr SIX: Doing the Laundry The best way to squash this argument before it even starts is to enforce the rule that everyone washes their own clothes. This way